It you grow in love you will grow in awareness. If you grow in awareness you will grow in love.
All couples face challenges ranging from communication break downs, work & financial stress, hectic schedules & daily stress, complex in- law relationships, parenting differences & inconsistencies, reproductive challenges & other major life transitions such as having children or taking care of an elderly parent. The truth is personal & family relationships can be both fulfilling and challenging at the same time. Marriage is one of the most monumental relationships that you will have in your life. Every marriage has its “ups and downs” and “highs and lows.” That is normal. During the “highs” the couple may feel connected, loved & passionate about each other. During the “lows” the couple may feel cold, indifferent, distant or hostile towards the other. Conflict and arguing may increase so much that the couple contemplates separating and may question whether they have fallen out of love with one another.
Whether you are experiencing marital discord or feel uncertain about the marital commitment, marital therapy can help identify unresolved or underlying issues that contribute to the reoccurring issues and reveal and interrupt the repetitive patterns that are keeping you stuck.
I am proud to be considered a prominent relationship therapist that has completed Level 1 and 2 training in the Gottman Institute developed by Dr. John and Julie Gottman as well as completing Level 1 in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy developed by Dr. Sue Johnson. I have also received advanced training from Dr. Hedy Schleifer who developed Encounter- Center Couples Therapy (EcCT) and as a result of these certifications I am able to help couples facilitate positive change and growth by utilizing effective evidence-based practices that work. The Gottman Method provides couples with a roadmap to learn how to compassionately manage conflicts, deepen friendship & intimacy and share a mutual life purpose and dreams. Marital therapy is not successful unless each partner is 100% committed to prioritizing their marriage & wholeheartedly committed to the process.
Couples seek marital or couple therapy for many different reasons. The length of marital treatment depends on the context and severity of the presenting issues as well as the couple’s strengths and resources. The best time to start therapy is when you start to recognize a disconnection not when you are in crisis and “on the brink” of ending the marriage. All marriages can benefit from the therapeutic process at any stage of the relationship. Just like a car it is easier to do a relational “tune up” then to wait until the engine blows. It may feel like your marriage changed overnight but most of the time it takes years to become disconnected from each other. Life gets busy and couples start to neglect their relationship causing them to drift apart and losing site of previously shared goals and dreams. When a couple stops working on their relationship, the relationship stops working! There are no quick fixes or short cuts. Long lasting healthy marital relationships take hard work and commitment from both partners. In order to sustain a lasting, intimate connection, couples need to not only make their marriage a priority, but also learn to feel respect and a fondness for one another, nurture their friendship, accept influence from each other and learn how to manage their conflicts more effectively. If one partner is struggling with their own personal issues it will affect the quality of their marriage. In order to experience connectivity and intimacy with your partner, you also need to have a healthy relationship with yourself. In these cases it is not unusual to refer one or both partners for individual therapy as well.
IF YOU VALUE YOUR RELATIONSHIP AND ARE READY TO MAKE IT A PRIORITY TO SCHEDULE A CALL WITH ME TODAY!